I appreciate your concerns, but again, I am only speaking to what I know. I know what fanboys are like, but I've never been in their circles enough to say anything much. I know there are male fans even in the areas of fandom in which I interact, but I've only ever interacted with 2 of them. I'm not saying they don't do the same things, I'm only speaking to the interactions I've experienced.

And regarding fangirl as a derogatory term, as I said in the post, I do not consider it that way. I refer to myself as a fangirl. But for the purposes of discussion, I believe some generalization has to be permitted. It's fine if you believe I'm wrong.